How others respond to my submissiveness

"Okay the dip's ready," said my friend as she pulled it out of the oven and set her hot mitt aside.  "I'm going to go pick up the pizzas."
"Cool," I turned to grab the crackers.  "You want me to take this stuff out to the guys?"

She gave me an odd look.  "No!  If they want to eat something, they can come get it themselves!"  She grabbed her keys and went out to the living room.  "The crackers and dip are in the kitchen, boys, go help yourselves if you want any," she announced before leaving.

Three of the four men there looked up from the television and nodded obediently.  As soon as the door closed, two of them jumped up to grab themselves some grub.

Alright, so, there's absolutely nothing wrong with these guys getting their own snacks.  Daddy often tells me that he has legs and he can get things for himself--usually when we are sitting down and he runs out of something and I offer to jump up and get him more.  But the above scenario just doesn't happen in my house.  I love to serve my guests, male or female.  But I especially love to serve my Daddy and his friends, to make him proud of his wife and sub, and because it fulfills a deep instinctual need I have inside.

As my friend's SUV pulled out of the driveway, I walked to where Daddy sat watching the fight and knelt on the floor next to him.  He'd been the only one who hadn't nodded at his buddy's wife's instructions; he hadn't rudely ignored her, either, just quietly heard.  I didn't make a big fuss, just quietly knelt next to him and asked if I could get him something.  He said no, he was saving his appetite for pizza, but said it loud enough that others did hear and knew that I was asking.  Then I felt his Pepsi, and it was empty, so I took it and brought him a full one, along with my own plate of crackers and dip.  I set his fresh soda into place and told him that I put a bit extra on my plate in case he decided he'd like to try the dip after all.  I didn't really think about any of these actions, they were all second nature to me.

Daddy smiled and thanked me.  Then I had to tell him about what happened in the kitchen, because the odd looks I get from other women always surprise me at first, as I tend to forget that many other women don't act as I do.  He laughed, and his friend (her husband) asked what he was laughing about. So Daddy told him. His eyes got really big, which almost made ME laugh.

"Holy shit, dude, she was really going to bring it in here to us, and MY wife stopped her?  Geez, don't freakin' stop her if she wants to do that!  She needs to teach my wife how to do more of that!"

I heard murmurs of agreement from the other side of the room, where the other two guys were sitting.  Just to tweak Daddy's strings a little, I smiled at him and said,"Or maybe I ought to hang around here more often and learn how to be a modern woman..."

A chorus of "NO!" rang out.  "Are you kidding?" said the husband.  "I think your man would punch me in the face if I let that happen!"

I don't think that I am overly submissive, and I certainly think I have a long way to go before I'm where I want to be.... with my aspirations as a sub, that is.  But the differences between the way I act and the way the majority of women seem to act are not lost on me, and are certainly not lost on most of the guys that see Daddy interact with me.

After that whole interaction at our friends' house, I noticed the way that I was watched.  They noted every single time I got up, how I would ask Daddy if he needed anything, how I would casually shake his soda can, how I brought him more to drink without him saying a word.

A huge reaction to my submissiveness is just being watched.  It's like they either can't believe what they are seeing or... I don't know.  Often I get really uncomfortable, so then I start asking other people if they need stuff.  At my house I do that anyway, but I'll do it even more.  Oh my gosh, that night, those guys had plates they needed taking to the kitchen, soda cans I wanted to ask if they needed refreshing... it wasn't my house so I felt like I shouldn't do that, but it was SO HARD not to be like that!  It's who I am!

Another reaction I've had a lot is guys feeling guilty at first.  They get all apologetic: Oh, you don't have to do that, no no, I can do that, please, don't feel you have to wait on me, etc.  I smile sweetly and say, please let me, I really want to.  Or, if Daddy speaks up first, he'll say something like, just let her, it makes her happy, trust me.  Once they get used to the strange feeling of it, they are so happy and feel so special.  And when they go to leave, I always get a ton of thanks and smiles.

Although I do have to say that men who have been either too whipped by other women or just can't get over how society says they should be are very threatened by me.  It's odd.  I'm not talking about truly submissive men either, but the ones who just don't know what to do about a woman who isn't walking all over them in a rude demeaning way.  I always feel very shocked by that: me, threatening?!

A definite reaction is that Daddy gets told how good he has it. :) That makes me happy because I feel like I am making him look good.  Guys often ask him where they can "get a girl like that" or how he possibly got so lucky.  I don't think he's so lucky, it's just that those guys have been trained all wrong by a messed up society.

We have a few really close guy friends and, once they get familiar with us, it's funny, they get used to me and start using some of the same phrasing as Daddy does.  Daddy doesn't surround himself with friends that don't have Dom-like traits.  Not on purpose, it's just that I've watched him and I see these things.  So it doesn't necessarily surprise me when a friend gets close to us and then says something like "good girl" to me one day.  Or, like with G last night, who is the only one who knows the true nature of our relationship, calls me out on my cursing when Daddy isn't even noticing and offers to whip me on the spot cuz Daddy has a migraine!  (He's getting a little too Dom-like: I tested him by flipping him off when he wasn't looking and HE KNEW I DID IT!! Grrr. Definitely not sure I'm liking this. :p)

Of course, we get not-so-great reactions too.  Many of them are in public or from other women.  Women so often assume that I act submissive or stay home or serve him, etc, because Daddy makes me do so.  Nothing could be further from the truth and I just bristle when they assume that!  It's such a judgment of me as a woman!  (Totally ignoring what a judgment it is of Daddy, of course!)  Silly things too, like the other day when we were walking in the parking lot and he pulled me to walk on the inside (by the cars) and these two younger-20-somethings made some comments akin to "Did you see that?  How he's making her walk where he wants?  What a jerk!"  Are you kidding me? He does that protectively, so that he's the first one to get hit by a car.  I do the same thing to my children, but I don't feel like a child when he does it, I feel loved.

Daddy says he sees that a lot of people just look at us very strange, but don't make any comments.  Not really bad looks, just odd looks, like they can't quite figure out what to make of us.

Oh yeah, we often throw waiters for a loop because he usually orders for me at restaurants and they aren't used to that any more.  We made his parents really wonder when they visited us this past month and we did that.  It's automatic now, so I didn't think anything of it, just told Daddy what I wanted and he told the waiter when it was my turn to order, then ordered for himself.  Mother-in-law is very autonomous and didn't seem impressed by my behavior at all, father-in-law looked.... mystified, and stared at Daddy for a few minutes.  Daddy just smiled at him.  LOL

I'd love to hear other's stories.  How have friends, family, or strangers reacted to seeing your submissive relationship?  Or, on the flip side, how have you reacted to seeing someone else's submission?  (I've yet to see anything I'd consider D/s in public, but I'm hoping to someday!)